Keep yourself and your partner safe with these simple safety rules. And remember: nothing is sexier than competence.

Rule 1: No solo bondage

When people die during kink, it’s almost always because they were tied up and alone. There is no safe way to tie someone up and leave them alone and there is no safe way to tie yourself up when you’re alone.

We know people who died because they thought they had a foolproof plan for doing solo bondage. Please don’t join them.

Rule 2: Be vigilant about nerve damage

The most common serious bondage injury is nerve damage from rope pressure on the wrist or upper arm. We know more people than we can readily count who have lost the use of their hands for periods ranging from minutes to weeks because of bondage accidents.

Make smart decisions about your risk profile and make sure you have the necessary skills for whatever risks you choose to take.

Rule 3: Don’t fall

It’s easier than you might think to fall and hurt yourself while you’re tied up. If your legs are tied, you’re likely to trip. If your hands are tied, you can’t catch yourself.

Rule 4: Have a cutting tool

The fastest way out of a bondage emergency is to cut rope. Always have an appropriate cutting tool within reach.

Rule 5: No suspension (yet)

Suspension bondage involves supporting most or all of your partner’s weight using rope. We love suspension, but it’s an advanced technique that requires extensive training.

Rule 6: No neck rope (yet)

Rope around the neck is dangerous in ways that aren’t always obvious. When performed by a skilled rigger with a comprehensive understanding of the relevant anatomy and risks, neck rope is high risk. When performed by someone without those skills, it is reckless and irresponsible.


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