Interested in bondage but not sure how to get started? Here’s everything you need to know about taking your first class.
If you already have a little bit of experience, maybe you’re wondering what to do next.
An in-person class is the best and funnest way to learn bondage.
If you’re in Seattle, we’d love to see you at Bondage for Beginners. It’s a great class that will give you a solid set of bondage techniques as well as basic kink skills like consent and negotiation.
Seattle’s fortunate to have a number of excellent instructors: Rope in Seattle is a guide to upcoming events and local instructors.
You should be aware that Seattle does have some unethical kink instructors. If you’re considering going to a class that isn’t on Rope in Seattle, check references carefully. At a minimum, consider asking the instructor whether they’ve been banned from teaching at any local venues.
If you’re not in Seattle or an in-person class isn’t your thing, all the content from Bondage for Beginners is free online.
If you’ve never taken a kink class before, the idea of walking into a room full of kinky strangers can seem daunting. We promise you it’s less scary than you might think: our classrooms are friendly and respectful. Classes can be good places to make new friends and connect with community, but it’s also common and appropriate for students to keep to themselves.
All the instructors Tornus recommends do a good job of centering consent and creating spaces that are welcoming to everyone. If you’d prefer a class that centers queer or POC students, those exist but can be hard to find. We’re happy to help you find the space that’s right for you (or to support you in one, if you’re feeling ambitious). Drop us a line.
We provide rope at all our bondage classes, so you don’t need any gear to get started. But if you want to start with your own rope, check out our guide to bondage gear.
You can wear whatever you like, but we recommend clothing that’s comfortable to move in. Anything you’d wear to a yoga class will work well.
If you want to take notes, bring a notebook and pen: like many instructors, we don’t allow phones in the classroom. Our classes provide extensive handouts, so you likely won’t need to take notes.
Don’t forget your water bottle and perhaps a snack.